Daddy issues on daddy issues

Ever since I got into colleges etc and have proven I’m not some bottom-sucking leech incapable of doing anything like he thought,  my dad's been Mr. (Outwardly) Supportive Nice Guy, which is cool in some ways, eg promised support for college.  (It’s yet to be seen whether he’ll deliver on this, because he has never once come through on a financial promise to me.  See: promising to pay for my car, promising to pay for my insurance, promising to help out with rent, promises, promises, promises on fucking promises.  But I digress.)  One of the downsides, though, is that he'll do things now like call me at work and shame me for my weight????  I mean.

1. He hasn't seen me in over half a year; he's getting this information abt my weight from my mom, who is the height and girth of a wood fairy.  Both of them have been really problematic abt my body in the past, pressuring me to get plastic surgery, withholding things until I worked out, making me hyperaware of how much I ate and how it was gonna make me fat when I was as young as 10, etc.
2. I only started gaining weight after I lived with him last year, when he was v controlling n arguably emotionally abusive.  My food intake was basically the only thing I could control, so I developed really unhealthy eating habits.  This isn’t blaming him; it’s just facts.
3. I'm average-sized.
4. I have body issues on body issues.  I’ve had eating disorders??

So he was talking abt how concerned he was that I've been gaining so much weight, and he offered to buy me a membership to CrossFit, which is nice but unnecessary.  Then he interrogated me about my clothing size, which was humiliating.  I told him I was a couple sizes smaller than I actually am just to get him to stop, which was also humiliating.  And he told me that my mom had told him my actual clothing size, which was not only humiliating but infuriating???????

This is a man who kicked me out of his house for being gay after treating me in the most baffling deprivatory way

Idk, there’s so much more to this, like the fact that he told me not to apply to private schools like USC NYU etc because they’re not worth the money and is now angry that I’m going to a state school (which is where he wanted me to go in the first place, for the $$$) and is now having massive selective amnesia abt everything and ugh but

He’s promised to pay for college

So I’ll stop